Today was the last day of school and already there are toys, laundry, and "stuff" everywhere! I'm so over whelmed with the big picture. It's so hard to stay focused on my baby steps. It's the perfectionist in me that says "Oh my Lord! I will never get this stuff cleaned up!"
But the FlyLady is right, It didn't get this way overnight! How can I F.L.Y. when all I hear in my head is negative thoughts? "Your a slob", You will never be like so and so who has it together", "I'm too tired", "No one ever helps me."
No one is perfect so why should we stress ourselves out trying to be that perfect someone who is organized, has it all together, and can keep the house clean with three kids in tow. It won't happen. We strive to be this person we are not. Why??? Because other people will see what great person I am? Your friends care about you no matter what. You don't have to have a perfectly spotless house ALL of the time. It's ok.
Finally Loving Yourself! Is a hard thing to comprehend sometimes. That little voice is beating us down with negative thoughts all the time. You have admitted you are a S.H.E and that's great! Now let's get rid of those negative thoughts that bring us down and makes us want to quit.
I have sticky notes all over my office and bathrooms that encourage me throughout the day. It really does help with the negative thoughts. One of my sticky notes says, "My worth is not based on a clean house". That is one of my favorites. My husband and children love me no matter what. They don't expect me to change overnight. It's a gradual thing.
So try placing sticky notes everywhere. And when you are feeling overwhelmed by all the new tasks that lay ahead with the FlyLady system, read them. Close your eyes and think of all those times your kids or husband have said something to you to make you feel wonderful! Then start your task with positive thinking!
Tiffanie
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